Tzevet T'shuvah/ צוות תשובה
Our mission is to provide a safe, non-judgmental environment at CBI to discuss and understand alcoholism, other addictions, and the prevention of substance abuse. LOOK FOR OUR TEAM MEMBERS, IDENTIFIED BY A TZEVET T'SHUVAH NAME TAG, AT FRIDAY NIGHT SERVICES.
We value and uphold confidentiality.
Often, the subject of addiction is taboo in our congregations, and the people affected by the disease feel isolated,uncomfortable, or ashamed CBI's Tzevet T'shuvah/Recovery Team works to make the congregation open for the alcoholic or addict, and their family members, to share their stories, ask for help, and receive comfort. If you have a friend or family member with an alcohol or other addiction problem, we can help! Many of our team members love people who are alcoholics or addicts, and are available to offer support and guidance. If you yourself are struggling with alcohol or other addiction, we can help! Many of our team members are in recovery, and can offer you suport and guidance. CBI has a dedicated, confidential phone line that is monitered by a Recovery Team advisor: 561/922-8989.
INFORMATION ABOUT 12-STEP GROUPS & BOOKS ABOUT RECOVERY are available in the CBI Adult Library on the 3rd floor.
MEETINGS HELD WEEKLY AT CONGREGATION B'NAI ISRAEL:
- 12-Step Group Meeting- Mondays from 7-8 pm in the Yormark Family North Social Hall
- AA for Professional Women- Wednesdays from 7-8 pm in Room 208
How should I respond to someone else's addiction problem?
What to Do
Support means making the addict/alcoholic face the negative consequences of his/her use in a non-shaming and non-blaming manner.
Acknowledge the problem behavior in a caring, not shaming, tone, This enables the family to take action.
- State Consequences.
Set healthy limits on the addict/alcoholic's behaviors, and set clear consequences for breaking the limits. Keep to your word!
- Take Care of Yourself.
Be responsible for yourself and your responses to others' behaviors. This models a way for the addict/alcoholic to behave, and changes your interactions with the addict/alcoholic. Join a support group, seek counseling, read about addiction/recovery in books, magazines, on the internet. Resources are available in the CBI library!
- Communicate Assertively.
State your feelings honestly and assertively about the addict/alcholic's behaviors and how they affect your family life. Use "I" statements, for example: "When you lie to me I feel angry and betrayed," or, "When you spend time with me sober, I feel happy and trust you more."
Remember: You cannot make someone recover. Offer the support and love you can and keep yourself well. That is the best and most that can be done.
What Not to Do
When a family member rescues, it's called enabling. For example, not confronting drug/alcohol use, by making excuses for inappropriate behavior, like calling in sick for them at work. When we rescue our family member from the consequences of his/her drug/alcohol use, we ENABLE them to continue to use.
Denial of drug/alcohol problem won't make it go away. Denial prevents families from taking action.
Threatening doesn't keep one away from drugs/alcohol. Threatening KEEPS families away from each other.
Bribery doesn't stop drug/alcohol use. It opens the door for families to be manipulated.
- Use Guilt.
Using guilt doesn't prevent drug/alcohol use. It just makes one feel guilty.
Fighting only serves to take the focus off the drug/alcohol use. The addict/alcoholic knows this and will use it to his/her advantage.
Links to Resources:
Chabad Jewish Recovery website: Click here.
Alcoholics Anonymous: www.aa.org
Narcotics Anonymous: www.na.org
AlAnon: 888-425-2666, www.al-anon.org
Jewish Alcoholics, Chemically Dependent Persons, and Significant Others: www.jacsweb.org
NarAnon: 800-477-6291, www.nar-anon.org
Alateen: 800-344-2666, www.al-anon.alateen.org
Palm Beach County Substance Abuse Coalition: (for resources and referral services) 561-627-6603, www.pbcsac.org
Websites for Parental Information:
Adolescent Treatment Finder: www.drugstrategies.com
National Institue of Drug Abuse:
National Association for Children of Alcoholics: 888-554-COAS, www.nacoa.org
Drug Abuse Treatment Association: 561-844-356
Center for Family Services: 561-330-2266
National Council on Alcoholism and Drug Dependence: www.ncadd.org
National Drug Information Treatment and Referral Hotline: www.findtreatment.samhsa.gov